How to Send a Text

💬 Send a Text. Save a Mate.

Sometimes, your gut just knows when a mate’s not quite right. Maybe they’ve gone quiet. Maybe something feels off. That’s when it’s time to check in — and it can all start with a single message.

🧠 1. Check in with yourself first

Before you send that text, make sure you're in the right headspace:

  • Are you ready to listen?
  • Can you be patient and supportive?
  • Got a bit of time to give them?

If the answer’s yes — you're ready to reach out. 🙌

📱 2. Pick the right moment

Choose a calm time, where you won’t be interrupted.
It can be a face-to-face chat, a walk, or even just a text.
Simple moments work best — no pressure.

✉️ 3. Start the convo

Keep it casual and caring. Try something like:

“Hey, you’ve been on my mind. How are things?”

If you’ve noticed a change, say so:

“You’ve seemed a bit off lately. Everything okay?”

If they shut it down, no stress. Just say:

“That’s alright — I’m always here if you feel like talking.”

The message has still landed. That matters. 💛

👂 4. Listen without fixing

If they open up, just listen. Don’t rush to solve.

Let them talk

  • Stay calm, even if they’re upset
  • Show them you’re hearing them

Try reflecting what they say:

“Sounds like things have been really heavy lately.”
That’s all it takes sometimes — to feel heard.

🌟 5. Encourage support

You don’t need all the answers. You just need to help them see the next step. Try:

“Wanna chat to someone about it? I can help you find someone.”
“You’re not alone in this. I’ve got your back.”

Point them to someone they trust, or even suggest Lifeline (13 11 14).

🔁 6. Check in again

A few days later, send another text:

“Hey, just checking in. How’ve you been since we chatted?”

Following up shows you really care. It builds trust and connection.

✅ Your 4-Step Check-In

✅ Step 💬 What to Say
1. Ask “Hey, you okay?” or “You’ve been quiet lately.”
2. Listen Let them speak — no need to fix or advise
3. Encourage Action Suggest helpful steps or people they can talk to
4. Follow Up “Just thinking of you. How’s everything going?”

🚨 If you're seriously worried

If you think they’re in crisis or unsafe, get support. Encourage them to talk to a professional, or call a crisis line like Lifeline (13 11 14). You’re not alone in this either.

💡 Remember:

  • One text can change everything
  • You don’t have to be perfect — just present
  • Real mates reach out

Send a Text. Save a Mate.
Because a message could mean everything. Don't risk losing them.